In her insightful book on why men don't call women back after a date, Rachel Greenwald lists this 'Boss Lady Syndrome' as the #1 reason men run, based on a survey of thousands of men. They like to feel useful and wanted, even though they know full well that you can open doors and run companies on your own.Remember that guys admire and respect a woman who can take charge and kick ass. Receptivity is a quintessential feminine quality, so if you want more good men in your life, be receptive to their offerings. Smart women are waiting for love to show up versus showing up . Good men will come out of the woodwork to find a goddess like you. You always possess the power to elevate others, so why wait? You'll never say 'all the good ones are taken' again.However, once a relationship with Mr Smartypants is under foot, often she unconsciously starts to compare and compete with him.She feels intimidated by his intelligence: "Is he smarter/more educated/more successful than me?There's minimal correlation between a guy's resume and how good he can make you feel. If his company isn't fulfilling, you're probably with the wrong guy. So they're experts at twisting themselves into knots of doubt, indecision and self-sabotage. Some products are what marketers refer to as “aspirational.” These items — Rolex watches, Louis Vuitton bags, Cadillacs, Apple devices, Lulu Lemon yoga attire — are often priced to be unaffordable to the majority of consumers and/or promoted by the superstars who personify a level of accomplishment most of us will never achieve.
I've also been privy to the dating woes of hundreds of men who wrote me subsequent to their reading . Some smart women put themselves in a no-win bind when it comes to finding an intellectual match." Now she's feeling silly when she doesn't know something, or tries to one-up him and have the upper hand.The guy doesn't quite know what's happening, except that the very trait that made him attractive in the first place is now causing tension. Let's say you're a CEO (or doctor, or lawyer, or some other authority figure).Guys respect , "In intimate relations with men, I want to major in feminine and minor in masculine." 3. If love and meaningful companionship aren't more important to you than a project, paper, or pet, then you can skip this part entirely. But if love really matters to you and you don't aspire to a monastic life, put in as much time and energy into dating and romance as you do into other things you excel at.